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Dating and Toxic Relationship

Adinda Lutvi Syafirananda (K2219001)

Video Title: Are There Any Benefits Of Dating Before Marriage? (Islamic View)

Date: 27 November 2021

  1. What is being discussed in the video? Explain your answer.
    This video is about how dating can harm us.
  2. What is the speaker’s main purpose? Explain your answer.
    The purpose of the speaker itself is to inform about bad effect when dating before marriage and encourage people to stay halal.
  3. How trustworthy is this video? Who is the speaker? What is the source? Do you think the source and the speaker are trustworthy?
    The source of video is taken from channel ‘Talaqin’ with the speaker named Sayed Ahmed Al Qazwini. From the viewers, this video is trustworthy and the speaker is famous too
  4. What the speaker’s attitude or tone towards the subject? Does he/she seem to agree or disagree with it? Explain your answer.
    The attitude of speaker here seem agree that dating before marriage has bad effects for us
  5. Does the speaker put forward valid or strong arguments? How does he/she support the key points? Explain your answer.
    The speaker put some valid argument by using some studies and Qur’an Sunnah perspective.
  6. Explain how this article will help contribute to your larger group project.
    https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/1554477X.2016.1116301 Since the speaker is an ustadz, people will think the source is too religious. So I took the article which is against dating in teenagers and I found an article which promotes a campaign to devote relationship violence. So this article help me to explain more about the bad effect of having a relationship in teenagers.

Video Title: 6 Differences Between Healthy and Unhealthy Love

Date: 27 November 2021

  1. What is being discussed in the video? Explain your answer.
    This video discussed about difference between healthy love and unhealthy love
  2. What is the speaker’s main purpose? Explain your answer.
    The main purpose is to inform the comparison between healthy love and unhealthy love.
  3. How trustworthy is this video? Who is the speaker? What is the source? Do you think the source and the speaker are trustworthy?
    According to the viewer, this video is trustworthy but i’m not sure about the speaker because the video put the writer also the narrator.
  4. What the speaker’s attitude or tone towards the subject? Does he/she seem to agree or disagree with it? Explain your answer.
    The speaker delivers it so slowly and the argument is neutral.
  5. Does the speaker put forward valid or strong arguments? How does he/she support the key points? Explain your answer.
    The speaker put only the opinion as the strong arguments.
  6. Explain how this article will help contribute to your larger group project.
    https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/1554477X.2016.1116301 This is the same article as the first. It also tells about teen dating violence which is related to this video. I guess this article help me so much because, in this study, there are the discussion about teen dating violence which is refers to phenomenon about toxic relationship

Video Title: Boyfriends, Girlfriends, & Temptation [Juz 12] – Nouman Ali Khan – Quran Weekly

Date: 28 November 2021

  1. What is being discussed in the video? Explain your answer.
    This video discussed the connection between temptation and communication.
  2. What is the speaker’s main purpose? Explain your answer.
    The main purpose is to inform about how temptation affects the girl/boy and explain Quran surah Yusuf.
  3. How trustworthy is this video? Who is the speaker? What is the source? Do you think the source and the speaker are trustworthy?
    The video was taken from ‘Quran Weekly’ with the speaker, Nouman Ali Khan. Both the source and the speaker are trustworthy.
  4. What the speaker’s attitude or tone towards the subject? Does he/she seem to agree or disagree with it? Explain your answer.
    The speaker explains the topic slowly but is meaningful. He seems to disagree when talking about the girl and the boy hanging out together
  5. Does the speaker put forward valid or strong arguments? How does he/she support the key points? Explain your answer.
    The speaker put not only the opinion as to the strong argument, but explain about Quran surah Yusuf as the keypoint.
  6. Explain how this article will help contribute to your larger group project.
    https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/01494929.2014.909376 In this article, there is a point that mentions if Muslims have rules to communicate between boy and girl, it has differences comparison between another rule from the other religion. This article helps me to show that Islam has several rules about having a relationship.

Video Title: Boyfriend & Girlfriend, Stop! It’s Wrong | Ustadh Nouman Ali Khan | illustrated | Subtitled

Date: 26 December 2021

  1. What is being discussed in the video? Explain your answer.
    This video discussed about how ‘zina’ happen in daily life
  2. What is the speaker’s main purpose? Explain your answer.
    The main purpose of the speaker is to encourage people to avoid admiration when around the surrounding.
  3. How trustworthy is this video? Who is the speaker? What is the source? Do you think the source and the speaker are trustworthy?
    The video was taken from channel ‘FreeQuranEducation’ with the speaker, Nouman Ali Khan. It’s a little bit trustworthy because it’s only repost and animated video
  4. What the speaker’s attitude or tone towards the subject? Does he/she seem to agree or disagree with it? Explain your answer.
    The tone of the speaker here seems to want to warn the audience to keep away from ‘zina’, of course, he disagrees with admiration.
  5. Does the speaker put forward valid or strong arguments? How does he/she support the key points? Explain your answer.
    The speaker put some study from many sources and put Quran surah Al Furqan 68.
  6. Explain how this article will help contribute to your larger group project.
    https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/01494929.2014.909376 In this article, there is a point that mentions if Muslims has rules about getting bound to each other and yes, it’s about marriage. This article help me to show that Islam has several rules about having relationship.

Video Title: Chit Chatting before Marriage – Yasmin Mogahed

Date: 3 December 2021

  1. What is being discussed in the video? Explain your answer.
    This video discusses chit-chatting before marriage.
  2. What is the speaker’s main purpose? Explain your answer.
    The speaker wants to against the habit of chit-chatting before marriage and encourage people to do something beneficial rather than chit-chatting with a boyfriend/girlfriend.
  3. How trustworthy is this video? Who is the speaker? What is the source? Do you think the source and the speaker are trustworthy?
    This video was taken from ‘Muslim Central’ with the speaker named Yasmin Mogahed. But the video is only reposted because Yasmin had her own channel youtube
  4. What the speaker’s attitude or tone towards the subject? Does he/she seem to agree or disagree with it? Explain your answer.
    The speaker seems to disagree with chit-chatting and she tried to against it.
  5. Does the speaker put forward valid or strong arguments? How does he/she support the key points? Explain your answer.
    The speaker here only put her opinion as the strong arguments but it based on her experience.
  6. Explain how this article will help contribute to your larger group project.
    This video will help since selection of social media is important and i want to share it to you. Then i found an article about cross-cultural and interfaith dating and marriage. https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/01494929.2014.909376 . In this article discuss about how Islam’s perception about dating. The reason still the same with the topic in Week 2 Log 2.

Video Title: Are You Being Abused? – Omar Suleiman – Quran Weekly

Date: 3 December 2021

  1. What is being discussed in the video? Explain your answer.
    This video discusses abusive in family
  2. What is the speaker’s main purpose? Explain your answer.
    The main purpose is about the prohibition of being abusive according to Islam.
  3. How trustworthy is this video? Who is the speaker? What is the source? Do you think the source and the speaker are trustworthy?
    This video was taken from ‘Quran Weekly’ with the speaker named Omar Suleiman. I think the video is trustworthy.
  4. What the speaker’s attitude or tone towards the subject? Does he/she seem to agree or disagree with it? Explain your answer.
    The speaker explain in slowly and he seems to agree that there is several problem of being abusive also how to solve it.
  5. Does the speaker put forward valid or strong arguments? How does he/she support the key points? Explain your answer.
    The speaker put not only opinion but several reasons from Quran and some historical about Prophet Muhammad SAW.
  6. Explain how this article will help contribute to your larger group project.
    https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/14649365.2021.1921243 In this article, there is an explanation that explains the failure of the individual to enact self-care also plays into discourses on the association between love and violence that locate the breakdown of the relationship firmly as the responsibility of women and their unrealistic hopes of love. I think this article will help me to find the cause of abusive attitude in the relationship

Video Title: Can A Toxic Relationship Ever Change?

Date: 5 December 2021

  1. What is being discussed in the video? Explain your answer.
    This video discusses why the toxic relationship is never change
  2. What is the speaker’s main purpose? Explain your answer.
    Speaker wants to share about how toxic relationship couldn’t be changed
  3. How trustworthy is this video? Who is the speaker? What is the source? Do you think the source and the speaker are trustworthy?
    The video was taken from ‘Coach Craig Kenneth’ and the host is Craig Kenneth and Margaret
  4. What the speaker’s attitude or tone towards the subject? Does he/she seem to agree or disagree with it? Explain your answer.
    The speakers here are being informative and they agree that toxic relationship will never change
  5. Does the speaker put forward valid or strong arguments? How does he/she support the key points? Explain your answer.
    The speaker here use arguments based on the experience. But still, it just the host opinion
  6. Explain how this article will help contribute to your larger group project.
    https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/09589236.2011.542018 This article explains the perspectives of women enduring domestic violence and several phenomena about how was the toxic relationship looks like. I think this will help me to explain the origin of toxic relationships.

Video Title: How To Fix A Toxic Relationship | Powerful Ways To Make A Toxic Relationship Healthy

Date: 5 December 2021

  1. What is being discussed in the video? Explain your answer.
    This video discusses how to fix a toxic relationship
  2. What is the speaker’s main purpose? Explain your answer.
    The speaker informs tips and tricks about how to end the toxic relationship
  3. How trustworthy is this video? Who is the speaker? What is the source? Do you think the source and the speaker are trustworthy?
    The video is taken from ‘Happily Committed’ with a speaker named Nathalie. I’m not pretty sure since it has less subscriber but still trustworthy.
  4. What the speaker’s attitude or tone towards the subject? Does he/she seem to agree or disagree with it? Explain your answer.
    The speaker talked slowly but meaningful and she is being neutral because there is no argumentative opinion
  5. Does the speaker put forward valid or strong arguments? How does he/she support the key points? Explain your answer.
    The speaker put only the opinion base on the experience in daily life
  6. Explain how this article will help contribute to your larger group project.
    https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/09589236.2011.542018 This article explains several definition about love and the connection between love and violence. In this article also mention how unhealthy love come from. This article help me to show how avoid toxic relationship.