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Raisatul 'Iffah Ash-Shofiah (K2219070)

Video Title: Oprah to USC Grads: “Stop Comparing Yourself to Other People”

Date: 4 November 2021

  1. What is being discussed in the video? Explain your answer.
    The video discusses the importance of stopping comparing ourselves to others and focusing on developing ourselves as who we are, not as another person. The speaker (Oprah) said that we exist in this world only to be ourselves, not to be ‘imitations’ of others. She said that when she first started broadcasting, she used to pretend to be Barbara Walker. But then there was a moment where she stopped imitating Barbara, and when it happened, it allowed the real of herself to come out and she could really express her true self.
  2. What is the speaker’s main purpose? Explain your answer.
    The speaker’s main purpose is to tell the audience about the importance of being ourselves.
  3. How trustworthy is this video? Who is the speaker? What is the source? Do you think the source and the speaker are trustworthy?
    I believe that this video is trustworthy, considering that the speaker is Oprah Winfrey, a well-known public speaker. In addition, this video comes from the YouTube channel OWN (Oprah Winfrey Network) which has been verified and has more than 5 million subscribers.
  4. What the speaker’s attitude or tone towards the subject? Does he/she seem to agree or disagree with it? Explain your answer.
    The speaker (Oprah) seems to agree with the concept of ‘be yourself and even invites the audience to do the same.
  5. Does the speaker put forward valid or strong arguments? How does he/she support the key points? Explain your answer.
    She presented her arguments based on real events from her own experience which I think makes sense, how she realized the moment she stopped pretending to be someone else, it allowed her true self came out to be real.
  6. Explain how this article will help contribute to your larger group project.
    “8 Amazing Things that Happen Once You Stop Comparing Yourself to Others”
    8 Amazing Things that Happen Once You Stop Comparing Yourself to Others
    This article provides a deeper understanding of the reasons why it is important to stop comparing yourself to others, as well as the benefits that we will get if we do so. This article will be really beneficial because it is precisely what my project intends to achieve.

Video Title: How I Learned To Love Myself

Date: 4 November 2021

  1. What is being discussed in the video? Explain your answer.
    The video discusses learning how to love ourselves by taking an example from a well-known public figure, Keanu Reeves. The speaker told us to think about someone that we really like. It can be a celebrity, a family member, or even a fictional character. And all we have to do next is take the good traits from that person and add those traits to our character, and by doing this, we would start loving ourselves more. This is because when we start incorporating the favorite traits of people that we admire or when we take the reasons why we admire them so much and add them to ourselves, we will start loving or accepting ourselves more. He said that the reason why we couldn’t love ourselves is that we have traits that we don’t like. All we need to do is fix this ratio. We must decrease the number of traits that we dislike, and increase the number of traits that we like. The speaker suggests that next time when we see a person that we admire, we need to ask ourselves this: what is it about him/her that I like so much? And how can I add that trait to my own life so that I can learn to love myself more?
  2. What is the speaker’s main purpose? Explain your answer.
    By taking an example from his favorite public figure, Keanu Reeves, who always does good deeds without bragging it, the speaker wants to invite the audience to start taking good traits from someone we like and add them to their own life so that they can love themselves more.
  3. How trustworthy is this video? Who is the speaker? What is the source? Do you think the source and the speaker are trustworthy?
    This video is taken from a verified YouTube channel called ‘Improvement Pills’ that makes many contents related to self-improvement, and it has over two millions subscribers, so I believe that it is trustworthy.
  4. What the speaker’s attitude or tone towards the subject? Does he/she seem to agree or disagree with it? Explain your answer.
    The creator of the video seems to give a positive sign towards the topic of learning to love yourself using the good character of someone you admire the most.
  5. Does the speaker put forward valid or strong arguments? How does he/she support the key points? Explain your answer.
    The creator/the speaker uses his own experience to support his arguments.
  6. Explain how this article will help contribute to your larger group project.
    “The Importance of a Role Model According to Parker” https://www.selflovebeauty.com/2017/11/positive-role-models/ Just like the second video, this article explains how to love yourself by making someone a good motivation or role model. This will support my project by serving as a reference for one of the ways someone might try to learn to love his/herself.

Video Title: 10 Signs You Lack Self-Love

Date: 11 November 2021

  1. What is being discussed in the video? Explain your answer.
    10 Signs You Lack of Self-Love: 1. You hide your true self from others, like a chameleon, you change your personality when you’re around others (masking) because you are afraid of judgments 2. You overanalyze your own behavior in order to become someone else 3. You have a strong fear of being judged by others, 4. You struggle with physical and mental self-care (ex: skipping meals/overeating) 5. You feel inferior to others (feeling insecure about your personality, intelligence, appearance) 6. You are too hard on yourself, you never feel enough on your achievement 7. You lack confidence, it makes you discredit your idea and make you keep quiet instead of speaking up 8. You need excessive affirmation and attention, you always look for validation 9. You have a difficult and unstable relationship, (fear of rejection, the thought that you are the inferior partner of a relationship) 10. You settle for less, you gave up on your dream and settle for something that is completely different. Circumstances can make loving yourself extremely difficult. Self-love is truly important. Life is difficult and has many ups and downs, it is important to know that something can improve if you want to take an action to create a better life.
  2. What is the speaker’s main purpose? Explain your answer.
    The speaker’s main purpose is to inform the audience about ten signs of lacking self-love
  3. How trustworthy is this video? Who is the speaker? What is the source? Do you think the source and the speaker are trustworthy?
    This video is posted by Psych2Go, a YouTube channel focusing on psychology with over seven million subscribers. The channel is also verified, so I believe that it is trustworthy.
  4. What the speaker’s attitude or tone towards the subject? Does he/she seem to agree or disagree with it? Explain your answer.
    The speaker seems to agree with the fact that those 10 things indicate the lack of someone’s self-love.
  5. Does the speaker put forward valid or strong arguments? How does he/she support the key points? Explain your answer.
    The speaker gives strong arguments and even puts a quote from an expert to support her arguments.
  6. Explain how this article will help contribute to your larger group project.
    “What Happens When We Don’t Love Ourselves?” https://exploringyourmind.com/happens-dont-love/ This article will be useful for my project since it informs us about things that might happen when we are lack self-love. This helps us to be more concerned about things that possibly harm us if we don’t fix them immediately.

Video Title: How Your Lack of Self Love Destroys Your Life

Date: 11 November 2021

  1. What is being discussed in the video? Explain your answer.
    This video discusses self-love in certain aspects and what might happen if we are lacking it. – Self-love gives you the courage and compassion to change your perspective and take control of any obstacles. When you master loving your mind, body, spirit connection, and purpose, you will change your life. Lack of self-love is the root cause of so much unhappiness in our life. What might happen if we are lacking self-love in these aspects below: 1. Mind. if you lack self-love in the aspect of mind you will often have a negative mindset about yourself & everything else. You believe that you don’t deserve good things in your life and you punish yourself harshly when you make a small mistake. 2. Body. You’ve lost touch with that sacred connection to your physical self. This can manifest itself in a toxic relationship with food and exercise. You hate your body and you are obsessed over wanting t change it. 3. Spirit. Spirituality doesn’t mean religion. It simply means your beliefs and your understanding of your connection to the world. If you lack self-love spirituality, you might feel that your life is meaningless and you might feel alone in this world. 4. Connection. Lack of self-love in connection keeps you from having a meaningful and healthy relationship. Whether a romantic relationship, friendship, or being a part of a community. 5. Purpose. When you go through life without purpose, you might find yourself in situations that are draining and soul-sucking. You might feel miserable or stuck in your life without an escape.
  2. What is the speaker’s main purpose? Explain your answer.
    To inform the audience about the negative impact of lacking self-love in several aspects.
  3. How trustworthy is this video? Who is the speaker? What is the source? Do you think the source and the speaker are trustworthy?
    The video is posted by Master Jack, a YouTube channel focusing on self-love sorcery with over one hundred subscribers. However, the speaker doesn’t give much of her identity, so I cannot tell whether this video is trustworthy or not.
  4. What the speaker’s attitude or tone towards the subject? Does he/she seem to agree or disagree with it? Explain your answer.
    The speaker seems to agree that lacking self-love causes many damages in several aspects of a person.
  5. Does the speaker put forward valid or strong arguments? How does he/she support the key points? Explain your answer.
    The speaker seems very sure in giving her arguments and I personally think that her explanation makes sense. However, she doesn’t put any quotes/statements from experts to support her arguments.
  6. Explain how this article will help contribute to your larger group project.
    “What Happens When We Don’t Love Ourselves?” https://exploringyourmind.com/happens-dont-love/ This article will be useful for my project since it informs us about things that might happen when we are lack self-love. This helps us to be more concerned about things that possibly harm us if we don’t fix them immediately.

Video Title: 8 Things You Need to Know about Self-Love

Date: 18 November 2021

  1. What is being discussed in the video? Explain your answer.
    This video is talking about eight things we need to know about self-love. 1. Self-love is not a linear process. It means that the process of loving yourself will have ups and downs. On this journey, you’ll probably have days where you feel great and positive, but also there will be days where you feel sad, or anxious. The speaker said that part of loving yourself is feeling and expressing these emotions without criticizing yourself. And I agree with this because while learning to love ourselves I think it doesn’t always have to be positive, because after all we all are only human and sometimes we can’t control our feelings or emotions, so it is OK to have ups and downs. 2. We are conditioned by society to believe that self-love is selfish. The speaker said it is normal and understandable when we say no to someone and then we feel self-absorbed because society has led us to believe that prioritizing our own needs is selfish. But this is not true, because taking care of our own needs is one of the most important things, and it’s never selfish. 3. Self-love is not a rapid process. 4. Self-love opens more doors for us to give and receive love. 5. Self-love can be difficult. It does not only take time, but it’s also very complex. There is a lot of processes that we have to do, such as understanding our feelings, and what do ourselves truly want. 6. Self-love means giving permission to accept our own compassion. It let us understand and show patience to our own personality flaws and become tolerant of our own shortcomings. 7. Self-love means following the yearnings of our own heart, even if that’s not what others want. The speaker said that part of loving yourself is giving yourself the right to follow your own dreams and your own heart no matter what others say. 8. Self-love is not always fun. Because sometimes, in order to love yourself you have to prioritize what is best for you and make sacrifices.
  2. What is the speaker’s main purpose? Explain your answer.
    The speaker’s main purpose is to inform people about some facts related to self-love.
  3. How trustworthy is this video? Who is the speaker? What is the source? Do you think the source and the speaker are trustworthy?
    This video is posted by Psych2go, a YouTube Channel focusing on psychology with over seven million subscribers. The channel is also verified, so I believe that it is trustworthy.
  4. What the speaker’s attitude or tone towards the subject? Does he/she seem to agree or disagree with it? Explain your answer.
    The speaker seems to agree with the idea of self-love and the signs related to it.
  5. Does the speaker put forward valid or strong arguments? How does he/she support the key points? Explain your answer.
    The speaker conveys her arguments with such reasonable explanation which I think makes sense, and she even put quotations from experts to support her arguments.
  6. Explain how this article will help contribute to your larger group project.
    “Accept Your Flaws” by Julie Taylor. This article is talking about the ways we can take to start accepting -instead of rejecting our personality flaws, which is still in relation to the two videos.

Video Title: Don’t Change

Date: 18 November 2021

  1. What is being discussed in the video? Explain your answer.
    It’s actually in relation to the first video, it’s on number three, and the speaker in the first video mentioned something about accepting flaws because they are what make us unique as a person. And it reminds me of this song by Why Don’t We, and the lyrics also say something about loving yourself and accepting your flaws because they make you who you are.
  2. What is the speaker’s main purpose? Explain your answer.
    The singers/songwriters’ main purpose is to persuade people to stop covering up their flaws and just accept them instead
  3. How trustworthy is this video? Who is the speaker? What is the source? Do you think the source and the speaker are trustworthy?
    This song is an official soundtrack of a famous movie, Ugly Dolls (2019), written and produced by some famous musicians, so I believe that this can be considered trustworthy.
  4. What the speaker’s attitude or tone towards the subject? Does he/she seem to agree or disagree with it? Explain your answer.
    The singers/songwriters seem to agree with the idea of being yourself and accepting your flaws.
  5. Does the speaker put forward valid or strong arguments? How does he/she support the key points? Explain your answer.
    The singers/songwriters wrote such beautiful and meaningful lyrics with some tropes to support the messages.
  6. Explain how this article will help contribute to your larger group project.
    “Accept Your Flaws” by Julie Taylor. This article is talking about the ways we can take to start accepting -instead of rejecting our personality flaws, which is still in relation to the two videos.

Video Title: How to Practice Self-Love

Date: 29 November 2021

  1. What is being discussed in the video? Explain your answer.
    Self-love is gaining an appreciation for yourself through the physical, emotional, spiritual support you provide yourself with. It’s not a fixed state but can grow over time through actions that lead to maturity. Establishing self-love can be a long journey, but it is a vital step to improving your mental health and overall happiness. Some tips that may help you along the way: 1. forgive yourself (too much self-deprecation can be harmful to your health) 2. Be mindful (keeping a journal, meditating, etc.) 3. act on what you need (knowing what gives you energy/happiness) 4. set boundaries (ref. Maslow’s hierarchy of needs) 5. protect yourself (bringing supportive people into your life) 6. live intentionally (make choices towards a goal) 7. show up for yourself (acknowledging the effort you’ve already given is important) 8. Practice self-care (exercise, eating healthy, etc.)
  2. What is the speaker’s main purpose? Explain your answer.
    The speaker’s main purpose is to help the audience by providing some tips to establish self-love.
  3. How trustworthy is this video? Who is the speaker? What is the source? Do you think the source and the speaker are trustworthy?
    This video is posted by Psych2Go, a YouTube channel focusing on psychology with over seven million subscribers. The channel is also verified, so I believe that it is trustworthy.
  4. What the speaker’s attitude or tone towards the subject? Does he/she seem to agree or disagree with it? Explain your answer.
    The speaker seems to agree with the idea of practicing self-love since she even provides some beneficial tips to do that.
  5. Does the speaker put forward valid or strong arguments? How does he/she support the key points? Explain your answer.
    She conveys her arguments with a very reasonable and clear explanation, and she put some references she got from psychology-focused sites in the description box to support her arguments.
  6. Explain how this article will help contribute to your larger group project.
    https://www.oprahdaily.com/life/a26028888/how-to-forgive-yourself/ “How to Actually Forgive Yourself”. I chose this article to support one of the key points from the video because this article is such a good reference and it is posted by such a trustworthy site.

Video Title: 5 Actual, Real Ways to Practice Self Love

Date: 29 November 2021

  1. What is being discussed in the video? Explain your answer.
    Real ways to practice self-love 1. Personal policy list. Write out a list of things you spend your time/energy on. Eliminate and say no to those things that you do to do anymore. 2. Practice loving-kindness meditation. 3. Write what you love about yourself. 4. List your wins every day. Point out all your accomplishments within a day so you can concentrate on the positive things as opposed to the things that you didn’t get done. 5. Prepare a self-love day. Plan a self-care day when you can fully and totally focus on yourself.
  2. What is the speaker’s main purpose? Explain your answer.
    The speaker’s main purpose is to inform the audience about the ways we can do to practice self-love.
  3. How trustworthy is this video? Who is the speaker? What is the source? Do you think the source and the speaker are trustworthy?
    This video is posted by Muchelleb, a YouTube channel focusing on making content about creating an intentional life, simplifying and getting things done with over four hundred thousand subscribers. The speaker/creator of this video didn’t put much of her identity, so I cannot say if this video is trustworthy or not.
  4. What the speaker’s attitude or tone towards the subject? Does he/she seem to agree or disagree with it? Explain your answer.
    The speaker seems to agree with the idea of practicing self-love and even gives some beneficial tips to do that.
  5. Does the speaker put forward valid or strong arguments? How does he/she support the key points? Explain your answer.
    The speaker presents her arguments with a very clear explanation and she uses some articles to support her arguments.
  6. Explain how this article will help contribute to your larger group project.
    https://www.myimperfectlife.com/advice/self-care-day-ideas “Self-care day ideas for a perfect day totally dedicated to YOU.” I chose this article as a reference to the 5th key point, ‘prepare a self-love day’ since it provides many beneficial tips for those who want to plan a day for self-care.